It’s OK

By Ina Wichterich
Photographs by Lindsey Appolis

‘We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.’
 – Oscar Wilde –

‘It’s Ok’ is looking at the tale of a man that looks for the stars.

On his journey he tries to find a place of  courage , magic, acceptance, belonging,  safety, understanding, surrender, abundance, warmth , of wonder and love.

A place of comfort where he can make his bed, a place where he can fall asleep… softly.


To Whom it May Concern:

If I may just mention a few things. Firstly is it possible for you to hold my hand, and if it’s ok with you to rest my forehead on your chest and allow your breathing to control the moment we are in.

Secondly, for me to slowly wrap my arms around you, squeezing you so tight without you getting uncomfortable.

O, and one more thing, for you to give me a kiss on my forehead. I know it’s a lot and I know it’s not possible, but can we at least try.


Figure of Eight Dance Collective and Youngblood Arts & Culture Development decided to collaborate in their attempt to tell this story as truthfully as they could.

In Wikipedia it says, that structured methods of collaboration encourage introspection of behaviour and communication. These methods specifically aim to increase the success of teams as they engage in collaborative problem solving.

So part of our collaborative engagement involved investigating and locating that place of comfort. A place where it’s ok to fall. One definition of falling is: to come down freely under the influence of gravity. We figured that maybe it all depends on how we experience the process of falling freely. Is it a scary one, full of fear of where and how we land? Or do we enjoy the free fall in that moment, loving the very flight and the not knowing?

We were wondering, how do we find comfort within ourselves and  within the fact that we do fall apart, away, back, behind, between, down, for, off, on, out, through, back on/upon, to, and of course, in…

‘The world is a stage, but the play is badly cast’ – Oscar Wilde –

So, how do we find the courage to recast the play (even ourselves)? How can we exchange our invaluable personal ideas with those of others in a true collaboration? How can we increase the success of a team, choosing the one that translates best for the work itself and the greater good to tell our stories authentically …. without the feeling of losing individual significance, and power.

Maybe the answer lies in asking ourselves, those very questions, honestly. Maybe we need to encourage ourselves, and each other, to introspect our own behaviour, carefully, and to find joy in communicating the findings.

If the world is a stage, then we must place greater value on how, to whom, why and what we communicate.

How: with joy and respect
To whom: it may concern & we are concerned about
Why: because we care
What: love always

I loved being part of the collaboration of It’s Ok, the creative process of telling the tale of a man succeeding in making his own bed, finding his place of comfort and soft fallings…..and finally looking at the Stars!

(Thank you Shaun, I am so very proud to know you.)